Thursday, November 11, 2010

Old men, yarn and love

I have thought long and hard about posting this and figured since I wasn't using names it would be ok. I would like your honest opinion on how you would handle it if it happen to you...

I work for this elderly couple and have gotten real close to them. I know their kids and grandkids. They are in their 90's and I've been there 6 years. He is in GREAT health, he's 95 and takes a thyroid pill...that's it! Wish I was like wise not 95. She just had a pacemaker and is in not so good health but better than a lot of 90 something women I know. They are Christian their bibles about God and how wicked the world and people in it have gotten. (which it has in my opinion)
I clean their house every 2 weeks and it's always been a pleasure. She is a wonderful cook and always feeds me...yum! This past Thurs. she had a hair appt and left about 30 minutes before I did. When I finished I went to Mr's chair to get me always. He said How would you like to make $50 extra dollars? I have made extra money helping them do other things or deep cleaning so I ask what it was he needed and he replied Have sex with me. I was speechless...just stared at him...I honestly wasn't even sure that he said it until he said ******* won't let me do it any more. This is where I got my senses back! All I could say was NO NO NO NO...... and I was saying it as I was walking out the door. Before I shut the door he said I don't want you to be mad at me. 

I left and drove to my next house crying...I was SO disappointed. You would think I would be mad but I was just hurt and disappointed. He is 95 years old! I looked at him as a surrogate grandfather!
Most people (family)are telling me to tell his wife. I don't see what purpose that is going to serve. They just celebrated being married 70 years....shes not gonna leave him and honestly I'm scared it will embarrass her and stress her and what if she has a heart attack and dies? I would always think I killed that sweet lady. I have decided to just quit...I'm going to tell her...something and I'm not sure what yet but I can't go back after that.
Just so you know this man is not senile or have anything wrong with him to excuse this.
So what would you do in this situation? 

ON a happier note this is what I've been doing a lot of lately in stead of blogging....


Loving on this little boy...making memories.
Wanna see more pics? Go HERE

I had to end this post with something a lil better than it started!


Oka said...

I think I would be handling it the same way you are. Don't let this drag on either. Let them know now, you have to quit.

Stasha said...

Wow... That is something else.

I don't think I would say anything to her if it was me. Now if they were younger (WAY younger), I would say something in a heartbeat.

I am sorry that this happened to you. I don't blame you for quitting. Just tell her that your doctor told you that you need to cut back on working. She will more than likely understand.


Rhonda said...

I swear I almost stopped breathing when I read this. Considering the age of this man and his wife, I would just let it go and not say anything to her. I would have to quit though because I would not feel comfortable in the house anymore. All I could think of was what a dirty old man and shame on him. So sorry that you will be losing her as a friend. :0( Ok, I know that you are upset about all of this, but I have to put a smile on your face. "I would have looked at the old guy and said "pffft honey you can't afford or handle me!"

Angie said...

I caught my breath reading that as well.


I kind of feel bad for the old man. He probably hasn't gotten any in years. And maybe that is something that him and his wife need to discuss, but that doesn't mean he should be asking other women for "it"


Kmama said...

I'm with the others...don't say anything. I hate that he put you in that situation. ((HUGS))

detweilermom said...

I agree with everyone else. I would just quit and not tell.

EmptyNester said...

I don't think I would say anything to her either. I'm very sorry that he put you in this position. I really hate it when things like this happen. I don't know what else you could possibly do besides quit.

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Kristin said...

Wow. This is utterly amazing. How disappointing that he let you down and betrayed you AND his wife in this manner. How sad. I can imagine how upset and conflicted you are. I agree that it's probably not a good idea to tell her. After 70 years, is it worth it to let her know what her husband is up to? Not really.

Good luck. *hug* Hopefully the next woman who works for them also has principles.

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Evonne said...

Wow! I think I would have handled it the same way. I understand quitting because that kind of statement makes for a very uncomfortable work place.

I don't see any reason to tell his wife. Maybe if she asks, just tell her something was said that makes you not comfortable working there anymore, but it's not her fault.

As crazy as this is, good for him for still being able to do that at his age!

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Belinda said...

Sounds like we are all in agreement. Wouldn't do any good at all to tell the wife. Only hurt her and embarrass you. It's always disappointing to be betrayed like that. He betrayed your trust and faith in him as a friend and a Christian. There's no way I could go back to work in that type of situation. I know it will be hard, maybe impossible, but try to forgive him and put it out of your mind. Dwelling on it will only cause your pain to continue. It's such a shame this had to happen. I'm sorry for your hurt.

Shell said...

Oh, no! How disappointing that this happened!

I would quit and not tell. No real sense in telling her, I think.