Wednesday, March 31, 2010

Pour Your Heart Out- Shelby

This is my first time participating with Shell in her Pour Your Heart out meme.
I'm usually pretty private about most things. But this has been weighing on my heart lately.
As Shell says:
just a brief reminder that everyone linking is pouring their hearts out and we should all be respectful in our comments. ;)

This is my niece Shelby. The pic was taken a few years ago. She's about 5 '3" and if she weighs 90 lbs I would be surprised. I have blogged about her many times pre-blogger so a few of my friends will know who I'm talking about.

Shelby age 9 or 10

She looks more like me than my kids ever thought of. 


She's my brothers daughter and she has had to grow up fast. Shelby has always lived with my mom or her nanny (her moms mom) and has practically raised her sisters who are all younger than her. She will be 18 in May. 
She's quiet, stubborn and beautiful.

Approximately a month ago we found out she was pregnant.
The "dad" (I use that term loosely) is not wanting anything to do with the baby. She is scared and won't hardly talk about the baby with us and my heart hurts for her so bad. Her baby is due 2 months after Drex gets here. They'll be 2nd cousins growing up together. 
I just wanna take her in my arms and hold her tight and tell her everything will work out. It's hard enough being a teenager but being a single teenage mom-to-be is being pretty rough on her. We have all told her we are there for her but she seems to feel all do we get her to realize it's going to be ok. I know it's not going to be easy but it will be ok.

I love you my pickle!


Tammy said...

I am sure she is scared but sounds like she has a wonderful support system! She definately is a nuturer so it will come naturally when the baby arrives. I guess you just have to love on her and remind her that you all are there for her. By the way, she has the most beautiful eyes!

Oka said...

Prayers for Shelby.

May I do a blanket for her baby too?

Brittney said...

awww bless her heart. Sounds like shes super scared, and withdrawn for that reason. She probably feels like her life is over b/c shes young. Once she starts feeling the baby & the emotions of motherhood take over her, she will come around. Just be there to support her & offer encouragement! Prayers for all of you!

Evonne said...

I think she's scared and feels alone, even though she isn't. I think the best thing you can do for is keep being there for her. And keep telling her that you support her as well. In time she will realize that she is surrounded by love and she is not alone in this.

Shell said...

Thank goodness she has a wonderfully supportive family to help her. She has to be feeling scared.

Sending prayers her way.

Thanks for linking up.

Jane In The Jungle said...

Oh I feel for her.....she's got to be scared but I'm so glad she has y'all!

Anonymous said...

She is so lucky to have you all. She is in my prayers. Good luck!

*LLUVIA* said...

awww...I agree with everyone, she does feel lonely; plus, it must suck that the "dad" wants nothing with the baby. I'm sure that's hard on her.

Luckily, like everyone said, she's got y'all! It is so much easier to face life when your loved ones are with ya.

Tell her, she's blessed! Things happen for a reason, and she may not see it now, but after she holds that baby in her arms, she will feel this new JOY and life will get better.

Messy Mommy said...

I also got pregnant when I was 18. It is very hard and I'll be praying for her. She'll get through it with friends and family like you! I'm a big believer that everything happens for a reason!

Anonymous said...

That she has such a strong support system already in place will make things much easier for her. Doesn't make it any less scary though. Being a new mom is a trial in and of itself, being one as a teenager is doubly so. Remind her that she is loved, every chance you get.

SupahMommy said...

She needs to connect with successful single moms. Can you find her a mentor? Someone she can relate to that 's a positive influence? I wish I knew someone she could get to know. You know how wonderful the internet can be for such a thing.

Shash said...

My baby sister was around that age when she got pregnant (date rape). She felt alone and deep down she felt shame, as misplaced as that feeling was, she still struggled with blaming herself. We loved on her and loved on her and loved on her some more. What Supahmommy said was good, what helped her most was a teen-mom counseling class/group she joined. Fast-forward 16 years later - all are doing well!